The following resources are highly recommended by At Stake Ministries as means to enrich your relationships.

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Client Information Sheet – If attending as a couple or family, we request each person complete the form. This information must be completed and received by us one week prior to your first session or we will need to reschedule your appointment.

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Informed Consent and Confidentiality Agreement – If attending as a couple or family, we request each person complete the form. This information must be completed and received by us one week prior to your first session or we will need to reschedule your appointment.

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The 5 Love Languages™ by Dr. Gary Chapman (Just for fun) – What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage: The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman’s New York Times bestseller!

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Dr. Gary Smalley’s, Lion, Otter, Beaver, Golden Retriever Personality Test (Just for Fun) -Personality differences for couples can create a tremendous amount of conflict in their marriages. If you’re looking for Gary Smalley’s personality test that uses the Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver, then just click below to print out a test, then the interpretation.

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Conflict Resolution Instructions 

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Saving Your Marriage before It Starts
Created by relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, is a comprehensive marriage program designed specifically for today’s couples by a couple. Relationship experts Les and Leslie Parrott show you the secrets to building a marriage that lasts. * Uncover the most important misbeliefs of marriage * Learn how to communicate with instant understanding * Discover the secret to reducing and resolving conflict * Master the skills of money management * Get your sex life off to a great start * Understand the three essential ingredients to lasting love.

 


 

Kingdom Marriage
What happens when a kingdom man marries a kingdom woman? Kingdom Marriage: Connecting God’s Purpose with Your Pleasure helps couples grow together as a kingdom couple to fulfill God’s design and purpose for their marriage.

Through practical insights and powerful stories, Tony Evans inspires and instructs so couples will discover the hope, challenge, and guidance God’s Word provides for their journey together. Ideal when read out-loud as a couple and then discussed at the end of each chapter.

One couple offered this testimony. “Tony hits a home run with this book. My wife and I have re-aligned our roles in marriage because of this insightful read! Biblical advice that transcends worldly advice to be selfish and only care about my happiness. This book will save many marriages!!”

 


 

Life Long Love

Gary Thomas believes couples often settle for too little when it comes to marriage. We fail to understand how deeply God cares about our spouse. We diminish our need to not only understand what biblical love really is, but also to become a people who excel at it. We let ourselves drift apart instead of making the daily choices to grow closer together.

Whether your marriage needs a complete makeover, a touch up, or just a new purpose, A Lifelong Love promises to set your relationship on an entirely new dimension. You will never look at worship or your spouse in the same way again.

 


 

Love and RespectLoveAndRespect-1
By Emerson Eggerich. We believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: when you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said “disrespected.” 72% of the women said, “unloved.” Though, we all need love and respect equally, they felt the need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue.

 


SheetMusic

Sheet Music
By Dr. Kevin Leman. You can make beautiful sexual music. In Sheet Music, psychologist and family expert Dr. Kevin Leman makes it clear: Sex is about the quality of your entire love life, not just the alignment of your bodies. So, if you’re willing to forge ahead for the sake of the best marriage you can imagine, this book is for you. It will expand and challenge your thinking, help you start your marriage off right, or go from humdrum to exciting if you’re already married.

Kingdom Marriage


What happens when a kingdom man marries a kingdom woman? Kingdom Marriage: Connecting God’s Purpose with Your Pleasure helps couples grow together as a kingdom couple to fulfill God’s design and purpose for their marriage.

Through practical insights and powerful stories, Tony Evans inspires and instructs so couples will discover the hope, challenge, and guidance God’s Word provides for their journey together. Ideal when read out-loud as a couple and then discussed at the end of each chapter.

One couple offered this testimony. “Tony hits a home run with this book. My wife and I have re-aligned our roles in marriage because of this insightful read! Biblical advice that transcends worldly advice to be selfish and only care about my happiness. This book will save many marriages!!”


 

Life Long Love

Gary Thomas believes couples often settle for too little when it comes to marriage. We fail to understand how deeply God cares about our spouse. We diminish our need to not only understand what biblical love really is, but also to become a people who excel at it. We let ourselves drift apart instead of making the daily choices to grow closer together.

Whether your marriage needs a complete makeover, a touch up, or just a new purpose, A Lifelong Love promises to set your relationship on an entirely new dimension. You will never look at worship or your spouse in the same way again.

 


Every Man’s MarriageEveryMansMarriage
By Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey. You can discover the secret desire of your wife and then meet it! Of course, first you need to find out what it is. That’s where this book can help. This second book in the “Every Man” series helps you grasp and apply essential principles for marital leadership. Through candid reflections on their own marriages, the authors apply solid, time-tested biblical wisdom and down-to-earth applications to dispel misconceptions that can lead to strife in relationships.

This marriage resource is most effective when read and discussed with your spouse. The authors have other offerings including Every Man’s Battle, Every Woman’s Battle; as well as resources for youth found in Every Young Man’s Battle.

 


 

LoveAndRespect-1Love and Respect
By Emerson Eggerich. We believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: when you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said “disrespected.” 72% of the women said, “unloved.” Though, we all need love and respect equally, they felt the need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue.

 


 

SavingYourMarriageSaving Your Marriage before It Starts
Created by relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, is a comprehensive marriage program designed specifically for today’s couples by a couple. Relationship experts Les and Leslie Parrott show you the secrets to building a marriage that lasts. * Uncover the most important misbeliefs of marriage * Learn how to communicate with instant understanding * Discover the secret to reducing and resolving conflict * Master the skills of money management * Get your sex life off to a great start * Understand the three essential ingredients to lasting love.

 


 

SheetMusicSheet Music

By Dr. Kevin Leman. You can make beautiful sexual music. In Sheet Music, psychologist and family expert Dr. Kevin Leman makes it clear: Sex is about the quality of your entire love life, not just the alignment of your bodies. So, if you’re willing to forge ahead for the sake of the best marriage you can imagine, this book is for you. It will expand and challenge your thinking, help you start your marriage off right, or go from humdrum to exciting if you’re already married.

AnchorMan

Anchor Man
By Steve Farrar. Anchor Man presents the high calling of fatherhood, the traits of a Christian father, the adventures that await him as he interacts with his children, and the significance of his role as a good family man.

Steve Farrar presents these roles and responsibilities in a way any man wanting to increase his understanding of his place in the family, and our society, can put into action every day.

 


Kingdom Man


“A kingdom man is the kind of man that when his feet hit the floor each morning the devil says, ‘Oh crap, he’s up!’”

So begins this powerful volume from Dr. Tony Evans, now in softcover. Tony believes that God wants every man to be a world-changer. He skillfully takes readers along a journey through the principles of biblical manhood, exploring how those who live, work, and minister around a kingdom man benefit from his leadership and care. Men will be challenged to fully understand their position under God as well as their position over what God has given them. Equipped with these concepts, they can actively pursue ways to maximize and develop the character qualities of biblical manhood in their lives.

 


 

FinishingStrongFinishing Strong
By Steve Farrar. In a road race it doesn’t matter if you stumble at the start or lag behind the leaders. Finishing is what matters! Similarly, endurance means hanging in there for your family and Lord. Learn how to avoid the common pitfalls that knock you out of the race, and you’ll “go the distance” with character and honor.

 


 

BattleReadyBattle Ready
By Steve Farrar. Are you prepared to fight the good fight? Farrar arms you with the weapons you need to be a powerful warrior of God! Exploring the lives of Joshua and Caleb, he shows how to meet challenges head-on, trust the Lord when all hope seems lost, and stand firm in the assurance of God’s provision.

 


 

PrayingHusbandThe Power of a Praying Husband
Stormie Omartian. Stormie helps men pray effectively for their wives and marriages. With stories and examples from her own marriage, Stormie encourages men to lovingly intercede for their wives in every area, including priorities, emotions, motherhood, fears, and sexuality.

Through this book, men can come to know the struggles and battles that are specific to women. It will give the husband deeper love and insight, while blessing the wife through the prayers he lifts up to God.

 


 

EveryMansBattleEvery Man’s Battle
From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations… but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them! Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining strong in the face of temptation. With extensive updates for a new generation, this phenomenal bestseller shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual integrity.

 


 

TrueCourageTrue Courage
By Steve Farrar. Does it feel like you’re in the middle of a personal “den of lions”? Exploring the life of Daniel, Farrar reveals a powerful sovereign God who will help you stand firm in the midst of uncertain situations—whether it’s an unexpected job loss, a financial crisis, the diagnosis of a sick child, or the return of debilitating cancer.

ForWomenOnlyFor Women Only
By Shaunti Feldhahn. Why is respect more important to husbands than love? Do men have an inner vulnerability? Why does sex unlock a man’s emotions? Is a wife’s appearance important? This groundbreaking book unmasks men’s inner wiring and equips wives to meet them at the point of their deepest needs.

 


 

 

 

ThePowerOfAPrayingWifeThe Power of a Praying Wife
By Stormie Omartian. Bestselling author Stormie Omartian inspires women to develop a deeper relationship with their husbands by praying for them. The Power of a Praying Wife, is packed with practical advice on praying for specific areas of a husband’s life including his decision-making, fears, spiritual strength, role as father and leader, and his faith and future.

 


 

 

EveryWomansBattle

Every Woman’s Battle

By Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Arterburn. When does a woman’s affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch, but with the first unfaithful thought—even a seemingly harmless emotional connection with another man. Drawing lessons from her own life and other real-life stories, Ethridge shows how single, married, and engaged women can protect their bodies, hearts, and minds.

 


 

LordIWantToBeLord, I want to be Whole
By Stormie Omartian. As a survivor of child abuse, Stormie brings a powerful message of hope and healing to all who seek deliverance from depression and spiritual oppression. She shows you how prayer and encouragement from Scripture can help you come to terms with the past; how to maintain emotional wholeness; and how to receive God’s gifts.

 


 

TheResolutionforWomenThe Resolution for Women
By Priscilla Shirer. Whether you realize it or not, you are already a woman of resolutions. Whenever you decide to treat people a certain way or participate in particular activities, you are resolving to live life in a way that will impact your future. Since you are already making resolutions, why not be intentional about the ones you make? Written in partnership with the film, COURAGEOUS, The Resolution for Women focuses on joyfully honoring God as a wife, mother, and family member while resolving to live with the grace that leaves a godly legacy.

 


 

GreaterHealthGodsWayGreater Health God’s Way
By Stormie Omartian. Do traditional diet and exercise programs leave you feeling unsatisfied? That’s because they don’t help you nurture your mind, body, and soul! Omartian outlines seven steps to greater health including peaceful living, proper exercise, prayer and fasting, perfect rest, and healthy food. Nurturing these qualities will help you develop the discipline you need to be a strong, vital, ministering person.

Enemies of the Heart
The difficult circumstances you are dealing with today are likely being fed by one of four emotional forces that compels you to act in undesirable ways, sometimes even against your will. Andy Stanley explores each of these destructive forces—guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy—and how they infiltrate your life and damage your relationships. He says that left unchallenged they have the power to destroy your home, your career, and your friendships.

In Enemies of the Heart, Andy offers practical, biblical direction to help you fight back, to take charge of those feelings that mysteriously control you, and to restore your broken relationships. Includes a four-week discussion guide—a valuable resource for small groups!

 


 

9Things You Simply Must Do9ThingsYouSimplyMustDo
By Dr. Henry Cloud. Ever wonder why some people always seem to get what they want out of life while others don’t? In 9 Things You Simply Must Do, Dr. Henry Cloud helps you connect the dots and respond to situations in the same manner as successful people. The secrets presented here are so simple and easy that they are often overlooked. Apply these nine practical strategies and enjoy the success they’re sure to bring into your life.

 


 

TheJosephRoadThe Joseph Road
By Jerry White. For those of us whose dreams have been shattered, there is overwhelming hope in the ancient story of Joseph. Joseph’s winding tale of promise and betrayal, provide the backdrop for Jerry White’s lessons for our lives today. Not an analytical treatment of Joseph’s life, The Joseph Road is more informal and engaging. White links lessons from Joseph’s life to your own, so you see struggles in a new light–one of great hope.

 


 

FutureGraceFuture Grace
By John Piper. No one sins out of duty. We sin because we want to. Sin promises happiness, and we buy the lie. So how can the root of sin be severed in our lives? The penalty of sin must be paid by the righteous blood of Christ. And the power of sin must be broken by banking on the promises of Christ.

John Piper’s meditations on future grace are rooted in rock-solid biblical reflection. Chapter by chapter—one for each day of the month—he reveals how, by cherishing the promises of God, you can break the power of anxiety, despondency, covetousness, lust, bitterness, impatience, pride, misplaced shame, and more

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